We’re Blowing the Whistle on the System
While a lot of our conversations revolve around financial wellness, the WFWC Defense, budgeting, and looking to your needs, Queen, the core of what we do rests in this: we care deeply about women.
This caring is only amplified by what we see behind the scenes of divorce; the financial abuse and dysfunction we are seeing. The reality is that GALs (guardians ad litem) are not listening.
They will interview and go through all the processes and still recommend a 50/50 split, no matter how unjust. Why? Because they get paid no matter what.
Women get stuck in the process of divorce because attorneys are playing politics. They think, “I don’t want to upset or hold my ground because I don’t want to tick off the other attorneys or GAL.” Too often, we see this inability to advocate for oneself as a detriment.
It’s an unfortunate reality that power scales exist, that there is an imbalance in the system. Even women who have money overcompensate and give more out of guilt. They are always second guessing, defending, and changing their budget because they don’t want to anger their spouses.
Politics in Divorce Play a Significant Role.
All too often, that role pushes women to give up more than they should and be put in a position that does not benefit them financially, post-divorce.
When we tell people these stories, they don’t believe us. And yet…we are often left speechless and experience daily what’s happening firsthand.
There is a sense of neutrality that contributes to the abuse in the system. Yes, it’s important not to take sides as a mediator, an attorney, or judge, but neutrality doesn’t mean you ignore bullying, manipulative behavior.
The family court just isn’t set up to address abuse. It’s looked at as a legal or financial situation. No one is holding a spouse accountable for abuse. The more women speak up and advocate for themselves, the more they find themselves fired as clients.
Your Ability to Make Informed Decisions—Impaired
Now we’re not saying that there are not great people who try their best for you, but the stuff but the stuff happening behind the scenes can wreak havoc on your ability to make informed decisions.
Things that should be done accurate and correctly are not being done. Holding people accountable shouldn't cause an attorney to get angry or not provide the level of support you paid for.
Some memorable examples that our clients have experienced include:
Undergoing surgery and being called to see how things are going—then being charged for her time.
Errors being made and having to pay extra to make changes—a common occurrence.
Sexual harassment. Yes, an attorney was making inappropriate comments to one of our clients. Yuck…
Disrespectful, dismissive, and rude emails…we have read far too many of these.
In the end, YOU have to live with the consequences of the outcome of your divorce. So, if you need to hold your attorney accountable, that’s okay. In fact, it’s more than okay.
Building Your Team
When you are preparing for divorce, it is vital that you find the right people who will help you, advocate for you, and work for your best interests.
Attorneys do not come cheap, so you would think that they would do their due diligence and advocate for you. And yes, many do just that. But many don’t. The attorney network is small, and they know each other.
Because of this, they might withhold advice so as not to upset the apple cart. You should have the knowledge to make informed decisions with the expectation of moving forward and addressing issues of finances, support, and child custody.
Divorce is hard, but when you have the right team behind you, it can be a liberating and empowering experience.
Disrupting Divorce for Women with BRIDGE™
Ready to flip the script on divorce? BRIDGE™ is our movement—where we throw out the old narrative and write a new one on our own terms. It's time to confidently stand up for what you deserve, not settle for less. Join the revolution—your fair divorce settlement starts here! 💪